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I can never live a normal life after being stalked

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“I can never have a routine again. My life is still controlled by his behaviour. I have to do what I can to keep myself safe.”

THERE are the words of a woman who was stalked, controlled, and threatened by her ex-partner.

She has bravely shared her experiences as a victim of domestic abuse as part of Dyfed-Powys Police’s winter campaign, which aims to speak to those affected by domestic abuse, stalking and harassment, empowering them to report incidents, and offering means to find support.

Cathy outlined the ongoing effects of the psychological abuse she was subjected to by a man who ‘targeted, groomed and controlled’ her when she was vulnerable.

Appearing to be ‘the nicest of people’ when they first met, Cathy said his behaviour changed when they began a relationship, and he started to control her.

“I was totally manipulated and managed by this man,” she said. “All the things you see in domestic abuse cases where the victim and perpetrator are married or live together, he did to me – he controlled me, he stopped me from seeing friends, he was damaging things and blaming me. He was totally gaslighting me, but he would be so angry that I didn’t dare do anything about it.

“He never physically abused me, but the effects of being coercively controlled are the most dangerous – the psychological abuse is impossible to get over.”

Realising some of his actions were warning flags, Cathy started a diary where she could log his behaviour.

He was watching her while she was at home, turning up at places she had not told him she was going to, and she later found out he was stalking her.

As well as getting advice from Dyfed-Powys Police, she sought help from several support organisations.
“I would crawl to the kitchen to make a cup of tea – that’s how unsafe I felt at that time,” she said.
“For months and months I had an overnight bag packed so I could just disappear. From every room in my house, I had an escape route. I knew exactly how I could get out of there if I needed to.

Domestic abuse covers physical or sexual abuse; violent or threatening behaviour; economic abuse; and psychological or emotional abuse. The victim and offender are linked as relatives, partners who are or have been married or in a civil partnership (or are engaged to be); in an intimate relationship; or have had parental relationships with the same child.

“I want to spread the word that domestic abuse isn’t always linked to somebody you may live with, have lived with, or you have children with,” Cathy said. “If you’ve had an intimate relationship with someone – even a one night stand – and they go on to stalk, harass or control you – that is domestic abuse.
“It doesn’t matter how old you are, what your background is, or your education, you could be affected by it.”

Cathy was mostly complimentary about the action taken by police, and at the end of the criminal justice process measures were put in place to protect her. The effects of the psychological abuse took a toll on her mental health, however, and her experiences have led to major changes in how she lives her life.

“I always consider the consequences of what I do or say,” she said. “I’m permanently scanning my surroundings, I’m always checking my rear view mirror, I cannot switch off.

“I still always have to be prepared.

“He is still a threat. Until he dies, I feel he is a threat to me and my life.”

If any of Cathy’s story resonates with you, or you need to report domestic abuse, stalking or harassment, you can contact Dyfed-Powys Police in the following ways:
Report online: https://bit.ly/DPPContactOnline
Email: [email protected]
Call: 101

If you are deaf, hard of hearing, or speech impaired text the non-emergency number on 07811 311 908
In an emergency, always call 999.If you feel you need support in contacting police, there are organisations that can help you. Click here to find them, or search online for Live Fear Free, Women’s Aid or the National Stalking Helpline – all of which have free helplines available.

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Former Milford Haven resident denies historical sexual offences

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IN A RECENT court appearance at Swansea Crown Court, Gary Hicks, a 63-year-old resident of Oregon Way, Luton, has firmly denied allegations of historical sexual offences dating back to the 1980s.

The charges levelled against Hicks involve serious accusations of sexual misconduct against two children in the Milford Haven area during the period between 1985 and 1989.

Hicks faces a total of five charges, with two counts of unlawful sexual intercourse alleged to have occurred between 1987 and 1989.

These particular charges concern a girl who was between nine and 11 years old at the time of the offences.

Additionally, Hicks is accused of inciting the same girl to commit acts of gross indecency on no fewer than 20 occasions over a span of two and a half years.

The charges do not end there; Hicks is also confronted with two counts of indecent assault.

The first of these alleges that he assaulted the aforementioned girl on at least five separate occasions. The second charge involves a boy under the age of 16, with Hicks accused of assaulting him on at least ten occasions between 1985 and 1989.

In his defence, Hicks has entered a plea of not guilty to all the charges presented against him.

In light of his plea, Judge Huw Rees has scheduled a trial for July 29. Until then, Hicks has been readmitted to unconditional bail, awaiting the opportunity to contest the accusations in court.

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Milford couple were out drug dealing, whilst child, 10, slept at home alone

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SWANSEA CROWN COURT heard this week that a Pembrokeshire couple were dealing large amounts of cannabis and cocaine. It was said in court that they were out in their car doing their illegal activities, even as their ten-year-old child slept home alone.

Rhian Warlow and Daniel Davies were exposed by their extravagant purchases, paid for with proceeds from the sale of the drugs.

Among the luxury items acquired were Rolex and Royal Oak timepieces, diamond-studded jewellery, and a BMW key ring embellished with a diamond.

The couple were intercepted by police while driving on the A477 towards Milford Haven on the afternoon of December 29, last year. This followed intelligence suggesting their vehicle’s association with drug dealing.

Rhian Warlow and Daniel Davies

Upon being stopped, Warlow and Davies claimed to have been patronising B&Q in Carmarthen. However, a thorough search of their vehicle unveiled a concealed 493 gram block of cocaine in the boot’s panel, valued at approximately £61,000.

Subsequent to their arrest at the site, Warlow disclosed that her daughter was left unattended at home.

Police, attending her residence, discovered her 10-year-old daughter asleep amidst a noticeable odour of cannabis.

Further investigation revealed four bags of cannabis weighing a total of 921 grams, worth in excess of £10,000, alongside scattered cash amounting to £1,255 in a cardboard box, £679 in loose notes and change, and £260 in notes within the bedroom.

The prosecution detailed Warlow’s indulgence in various luxury goods funded by their illicit activities. Analysis of Davies’ mobile phone messages exposed his frequent drug dealings, often in ounces and sometimes in kilograms, with Warlow implicated as both his driver and financial beneficiary. Notably, she too was involved in orchestrating transactions independently.

The couple holidayed in Fira, Santorini, Greece

Davies, previously convicted twice for six offences, the latest in 2007, and Warlow, with a single conviction in 2009, expressed remorse through their legal representatives.

Davies, 35, from Hawthorn Path, Milford Haven, lamented involving Warlow, acknowledging the detrimental effect on her familial relationships.

Warlow, 31, from Gelliswick Road, Hakin, exhibited regret, particularly for the repercussions on her bond with her children, attributing her actions to naivety.

Both pleaded guilty to charges of possessing with intent to supply and concerning themselves in the supply of both cocaine and cannabis.

Recorder Barry Clarke sentenced Davies to three years of imprisonment, while Warlow received a two-year suspended sentence, mandating 200 hours of unpaid work and 30 days of rehabilitation activities.

The prosecution announced plans to pursue the confiscation of their criminal profits under the Proceeds of Crime Act.

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Detectives investigating the death of boy, 15, near Lampeter

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Dyfed-Powys Police is investigating the circumstances surrounding the sudden death of a 15-year-old boy at a location near Lampeter on Friday afternoon (March 1), the force has confirmed.

The family is being supported by specialist officers.

The death is not being treated as suspicious and a report will be prepared for H.M. Coroner.

The police issued a statement saying: “We are aware of concern in the community, however as an investigation is ongoing we would ask that support is given to the family by not speculating on the circumstances surrounding the death.”

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